Marriage thrives only when there is a mutual outcome envisioned by the spouses. Chosen outcomes lead to asking the right questions about life and how to negotiate the crisis of marriage, families, work, and self. Once the right questions are asked, the right answers can be found. Rights answers lead to establishing the right standards from which effective decisions can be made. Decisions lead to actions, which set outcomes into motion. Choices accumulate to an outcome; right choices lead to the right outcomes of a Chosen Marriage.

True Love in a Christian Marriage is defined by God, after all, God is love. To be truly loving to your spouse is to be a godly spouse. Scripture provides a simple yet profound roadmap to guide all marriages on their journey of love. We will use this map to develop your personal expression of love in your marriage.

Marriage is underwritten by lasting friendship. When repeated conflicts, deep hurt, or intimate betrayal, this vital friendship can become damaged, even destroyed. When the sense of friendship is lost, the marriage becomes highly conflicted, laced with criticism, contempt, and defensiveness. When friendship is forgotten, many marriages fail. The re-friended marriage gives you four simple Power Convictions that help you ask the right questions in times of conflict. Mastering the Four Power Convictions helps marriages reconnect to friendship in the Six Essentials to a lasting marriage.

Disconnection threatens marriage. uses. It is disconnection that causes the fear to manifest in the wife, and the shame to manifest in the husband. Reconnecting involves learning to understand and work within the needs and limits of both spouses to stop hurt and turn back from fear and shame. Reconnection is a matter of understanding what actually disconnects you in your communication and interactions.  

In the same way that good fences make good neighbors, good boundaries create good relationships. But setting healthy boundaries is one of the most misunderstood forms of loving and caring in our culture. What passes for boundaries is too often just a disguised form of control, fear, or shame. The absence of boundaries is seen in marriages that become conflicted and critical, uncaring and absent. End the frustration and miscommunication with health boundaries rooted in love and respect!

Marriage begins with a promise to become ever-present with each other. An attended marriage brings the sacred gift of being present to the spouses, promising one another you will be heard, understood, appreciated, and supported. Communication is more than just talking; more than just listening. Being fully present with one another is what really counts.

Every person must feel safe in their relationships, especially in their marriage. But safety is often thwarted by past hurts, childhood traumas, selfish spouses, and core fears. The coping strategies one develops to keep harm away can easily block connectedness in a marriage. When conflicts come, fears can quickly turn ordinary conflicts into major arguments or fights. Learn how to stop reacting out of fear and return to responding in a healthy way through safeguarding your marriage the right way.

It's an unfortunate fact that some marriage, even Christian marriages, fall into betrayal and infedelity. Pop-culture and your friends might tell you it's over. But betrayal can be healed, and marriages can be built back even better than they were before. In fact, this is God's intention for your marriage, despite the betrayal. But healing is hard because of the "hardness of hearts" as Jesus declared in Matt 19:8. To heal that hardness on both sides takes skill, information, and tools. Join Dr Chuck and learn how to build back from betrayal into a marriage that is healthier than it was before the betrayal. This workshop is for infedelities including porn addiction, sex addiction, emotional and cyber affairs, physical affairs, and other violations of marriage fidelity.